In fortunate parts of the world, there’s a palpable sense of relief and celebration as life begins to get back to normal after a brutal pandemic year. In some quarters, there’s jubilation—and rightly so after so many shocks to so many for so long. And of course the pandemic rages on, with so many people suffering, struggling, recovering, mourning, and more.
But back to normal? Not so fast.
We sense, beneath the surface, that this is an opportunity to revisit and reinvent.
Surely there are some things we just want to bring back—things we missed. But we should be wary of falling back into old patterns that no longer serve us.
Now that we’ve received stark reminders of our own mortality and that of our loved ones, now is a good time to ask:
What kind of life do I want?
What kind of life have I been living?
What changes would I like to make?
When it comes to the life we’ve been living, a fair assessment will likely reveal some pain points. Consider the following traps of living:
Common Traps of Living
- Am I avoiding deeper issues or pressing pain points in my life, and numbing myself with distraction, binge-watching, or other escapes?
- Have I suffered from burnout?
- Have I been cocooning, losing close connection with family and friends?
- Have I fallen into the comparison trap?
- Am I conforming to a conventional path instead of blazing my own?
- Have I been drifting through life?
- Am I stuck in ego-centric living, making everything about me?
- Am I caught up in caring too much about what others think?
- Have I been deferring my dreams and postponing my happiness?
- Am I chasing prestige?
- Am I settling?
Take my Traps Test (Common Traps of Living) to see what’s getting in the way of your happiness and quality of life.
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We all fall into traps in life. Often we’re not even aware of them. Check out these common traps of living to see what’s inhibiting your quality of life and fulfillment.
These questions, while unsettling, can also be motivating, because they point to the gap between who we are and who we long to be.
We must begin, though, with an honest appraisal.
“If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule. Never lie to yourself.”
-Paulo Coelho, Brazilian writer
The appraisal above should lead not only to insight but action. It doesn’t need to be complicated. Where are you doing well, and where are you struggling? You can use whatever system you like, even as simple as a list, writing in one column “What I like about my life” and in another column “What I don’t like.”
The left column (What I like) is one for appreciation, and a place to revisit to make sure you continue the good things and savor them.
The right column (What I don’t like) is one for action. The point is not to wallow in defeat but to take a cold hard look at reality and then decide: What will I do about it? (And how, and when, and with whom?)
Many of us have several pain points in our life. That’s okay. Don’t get bogged down in trying to solve everything at once, or in too much planning.
Begin with the most pressing pain point. Start with small things you can do to make progress, to generate energy and momentum.
Now is your chance. Will you take it?
Quality of Life Assessment
Evaluate your quality of life in ten key areas by engaging with our assessment. Find your strongest areas, and the areas that need work, then plan accordingly!
- What aspects of your life do you wish to keep or get back to?
- What aspects of your life do you want to change, and how will you get started?
Tools for You
- Leadership Derailers Assessment to help you identify what’s inhibiting your leadership effectiveness
- Personal Values Exercise to help you determine and clarify what’s most important to you
- Alignment Scorecard to help you assess your organization’s level of alignment
P.S. – Another level of analysis for the “back to normal” question is the societal level. Surely, there are some things we want to bring back, but it’s also a great opportunity to revisit vexing issues like financial fragility, inequality, racism, political division and disdain, digital addiction and manipulation, climate change, unsustainable practices, and the role of business in society.
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Gregg Vanourek and Bob Vanourek are leadership practitioners, teachers, and award-winning authors (and son and father). They are co-authors of Triple Crown Leadership: Building Excellent, Ethical, and Enduring Organizations, a winner of the International Book Awards. Check out their Leadership Derailers Assessment or get their monthly newsletter. If you found value in this, please forward it to a friend. Every little bit helps!