Are you tired? Stressed? Busy? Just par for the course for today’s leader, right?
These days, it seems that “busy is the new black.” Busy is in. People boast about how busy they are. When answering a schedule request, they regale you with all the things in their calendar that prevent them from meeting you at the requested time. It’s a game, with busyness an assumed proxy for importance.
Anne-Marie Slaughter has described modern workers as “time macho,” with “relentless competition to work harder, stay later,” and travel more. Thus the recent viral meme:
“Stop the glorification of busy.”
It turns out that being tired is a terrible formula for leading and living. And it’s worse that you might think.
Recall that sleep deprivation is one of the most effective forms of torture known to man. (Yet we inflict it on ourselves regularly.)
Being tired reduces our performance, harms our relationships, ruins our moods, hurts our brains, and makes us less ethical.
According to researchers, being tired reduces our resistance to pressure: “When you’re sleep deprived at work, it’s much easier to simply go along with unethical suggestions from your boss because resistance takes effort and you’re already worn down,” said David Welsh, a University of Washington professor.
According to researchers Christopher Barnes and Brian Gunia, “Over the past few years, management and psychology research has uncovered something interesting: both energy and ethics vary over time. In contrast to the assumption that good people typically do good things, and bad people do bad things, there is mounting evidence that good people can be unethical and bad people can be ethical, depending on the pressures of the moment. For example, people who didn’t sleep well the previous night can often act unethically, even if they aren’t unethical people.”
In another experimental study, tired participants (after an all-nighter) were given the opportunity to play along with a lie to earn money. A caffeinated group was compared with a non-caffeinated group, and the tired participants were more likely to abandon their morals for cash.
Ruth Haley Barton distinguishes between what she calls “good tired” and “dangerous tired”:
“Dangerous tired is an atmospheric condition of the soul that is volatile and portends the risk of great destruction. It is a chronic inner fatigue accumulating over months (and sometimes years)…. it can actually be masked by excessive activity and compulsive overworking. When we are dangerously tired we feel out of control, compelled to constant activity by inner impulses that we may not even be aware of. For some reason we can’t name, we’re not able to linger and relax over a cup of coffee. We can’t keep from checking voice-mail or e-mail ‘just one more time’ before we leave the office or before we go to bed at night.”
Our state of sleep deprivation impairs our judgment, and can bring out the worst in us.
“Every important mistake I’ve made in my life, I’ve made because I was too tired.”
• Insomnia is significantly associated with lost performance at work, and is estimated to cost U.S. businesses more than $63 billion annually, according to a 2011 Harvard Medical School study
• Poor sleep is associated with increased risk of heart disease and diabetes, as well as higher stress levels, according to a Duke University study
When it comes to healthy sleep, the evidence is powerful:
• When you sleep more than the bare minimum, the volume of gray matter in your brain increases, which is linked to improved psychological health, according to a Harvard Medical School study
• During sleep, the brain clears out harmful waste proteins that build up, according to a 2013 study on mice
Cheri Mah, a researcher at the Stanford Sleep Disorders Clinic, investigated the impact of sleep on the brain. She had eleven college basketball players, over three seasons, keep a normal schedule for a few weeks and then take naps for five to seven weeks and try to get ten hours of sleep per night (and eat carefully). The results were striking:
• All eleven players increased their performance
• Three-point shooting and free throws increased 9 percent
• The players reported less fatigue and better moods
According to Mah, “What these findings suggest is that these athletes were operating at a sub-optimal level. They’d accumulated a sleep debt…. It’s not that they couldn’t function—they were doing fine—but that they might not have been at their full potential.”
The importance of sleep has been noted in sports, business, the military, and beyond.
“Tired officers are always pessimists.”
-General George S. Patton
Nobody wants to follow a tired leader. Tired leaders can become cynical, since their weariness literally wears them down. They “satisfice”: settling for sub-optimal decisions or courses of action because they judge them in the hazy heat of the moment to be “good enough.”
“Fatigue makes cowards of us all.”
Sometimes our state of ever-tiredness is a sign of deeper issues: fears, needs, and hidden pains.
“The deepest fear we have, ‘the fear beneath all fears,’ is the fear of not measuring up, the fear of judgment. It’s this fear that creates the stress and depression of everyday life.”
As a remedy for this self-inflicted torture, we need not just better and more sleep, but also a healthy rhythm of self-care, renewal, sanctuary, and serenity. We need prayer, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and regular breaks.
One more thing: What do Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Edison, Eleanor Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, and John F. Kennedy have in common?
They all took regular naps, according to Huffington. Perhaps sleep is part of the secret sauce of innovation, with our minds working on problems even while we slumber.
The problem with tired leaders is that they are not fully themselves, and that can cause real problems. (Think of those late-night emails or weekend calls that set the tone of always on / always available / always working / no down-time / work-first.)
As leaders, we must do better. We need to manage ourselves: setting appropriate boundaries, investing in ourselves and our health, and working smarter, not harder.
Sleep is the new sexy.
Gregg Vanourek is co-author (with his father, Bob Vanourek) of Triple Crown Leadership: Building Excellent, Ethical, and Enduring Organizations, a winner of the International Book Awards. To get Gregg’s manifesto on Leadership Derailers (and how to avoid them) and free book chapters from Gregg’s books, including Triple Crown Leadership, check out his Free Guide.